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Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Day 269 and feeding the good dog

Over and over at conferences and in books I've read the last few years, I've heard different phrases used for the practice of looking for the good in something bad. Re-framing was the term that Denise Ryan used when I heard her speak back in August and "feed your good dog" is the term that Jeff Johnson used in his book and on Saturday. What it basically means is to try to focus on positive aspects or humor in stuff that's happening and not just in the negative. It can be hard and it's a conscious effort to do it. But here's some from recent happenings in my life. I'm down two kids but with not feeling well this week, I've been able to take it a little easier than normal. Another thing: when I lost those two kids after all that drama, I wasn't the one who had to make that choice, the parent made it for me. A few months ago, I had to let a family go and it was very hard for me. I knew in my head I was doing the right thing, but it broke my heart. So I was very glad not to be put in that position again. With being sick, it's given me a chance to relax and let Tom pamper me a little bit, which if you know me at all is VERY hard for me. LOL!

Tom's going to be cooking chili tomorrow night for the big cook-off on Friday. Keep your fingers crossed for him!


Heidi said...

Sounds like you've come to some wonderful conclusions that will make your life soooo much easier.
I "fired" a client last month who had been wreaking havoc in my life for more than a year. It was the best thing I've ever done because 1) the stress of his presence in my life is GONE and 2)I have landed other higher-paying clients to take his place. PLUS, one of my current clients heard about the incidents with this guy and DOUBLED MY WORK for 2009. So you never know what will happen when you just grit your teeth and do what you don't necessarily want to do!
Good for you -- I'm glad it worked out, even though the child's parent made the decision for you. I am sure you will be MUCH LESS STRESSED!

Denise Ryan said...

Woowee!!! I'm so excited that you were able to take something I said in my one my sessions and use it!!! Bravo!! I'm glad those people are gone - they were all taking up spaces that will be filled by people who really appreciate you! Hope you return to full speed soon (I have no doubt you will!!!)

Mom Thumb said...

Even when I couldn't see the good in a situation at the time, when I look back over my life, even the darkest times have turned out to be positive experiences. So I always have faith, if I can't see the good of what's going on, that at some point I'll look back and say, oh, there it is.

I'm making chili tonight, too. But it's not my recipe, so when Tom wins, I won't take it personally!

KiddoKare1 said...

Thanks Heidi, Denise, and Linda! Linda, Tom has never won downtown, he would be so excited if he did.